I'm Pregnant! Our TTC Journey + Secondary Infertility Story
I’ve been holding onto a special secret for a while now… and I’m finally ready to share:
I’m pregnant with our fourth baby boy!
Currently 22 weeks along, and every kick and flutter still feels surreal. This little one is already so deeply loved—and so deeply hoped for.
I know this isn’t my typical breastfeeding content, but I wanted to share our story because so many of you have opened your hearts to me when I’ve talked about fertility struggles, miscarriage, and the rollercoaster that is TTC (trying to conceive). If you're walking that road, I see you. And I hope that sharing our journey might bring even a spark of comfort or hope.
Navigating Secondary Infertility
When people hear we’re expecting our fourth, it might sound like fertility has never been an issue for us. But behind this pregnancy are years of trying, five known miscarriages, and a lot of heartbreak.
Secondary infertility—the struggle to conceive after already having children—is often misunderstood. People say things like, “You should just be grateful for the children you have,” or “Why keep trying?” But longing for another child doesn’t mean we’re not grateful. It means our hearts had space for one more.
Our Journey to Baby #4
We started trying over three years ago, when our youngest was about 2½. I had struggled to conceive him (it took 18 months), so we figured it might take time again. I got pregnant within a few months, but that pregnancy ended in a heartbreaking early miscarriage—right as we were heading out on a family vacation.
From there, it became a long stretch of negative tests, more losses, and medical visits.
I underwent bloodwork, surgery to remove uterine polyps, started progesterone supplements, and eventually had a second endometriosis excision surgery. Afterward, we felt hopeful again. But loss followed hope once more.
We did more testing, and eventually I was diagnosed with PCOS, adding another layer to our fertility puzzle.
Trying Everything… and Then Letting Go
We tried medications, supplements, monitored cycles, ultrasounds, tracking devices (Tempdrop, Kegg, OvuSense, and more), and eventually met with a fertility clinic to discuss IUI. But in my heart, I didn’t feel peace about it. It felt like I was chasing pregnancy with everything I had… and still coming up short.
So I stopped.
I stopped the treatments, the tracking, the constant analyzing. And instead, I focused on supporting my body—investing in a high-quality prenatal, an egg quality supplement, and weekly acupuncture. I even took a supplement called L-arginine to support blood flow and cervical mucus. And then something shifted.
Pregnant… Finally
In early 2025, I had one last early loss, but shortly after that… I was pregnant again. And this time, the pregnancy stuck.
We’ve had some bumps—like finding fluid on the baby’s kidneys and ongoing monitoring for growth—but overall, he’s doing well. My Crohn’s disease has made things more complicated this time, and there are days I can barely eat, but we’re taking it one week at a time with help from my amazing midwife and OB team here in Denver.
What Helped the Most?
I can’t say for sure what finally led to this baby. Was it the acupuncture? The supplements? The mental shift to let go and trust?
All I know is this:
I had a deeply personal spiritual experience after my third baby was born, one that told me another child was meant for our family. And even when I wanted to give up, that impression kept me going.
If You’re in the Waiting
I share this not because I have the answers, but because I know how isolating fertility struggles can be—especially when you’re not new to motherhood.
If you’re in that waiting space, please know:
Your pain is valid.
Your dream is real.
You are not alone.
I’ll be sharing more pregnancy updates on Instagram, so come follow along if you’d like. And if you have any questions—about anything I mentioned—drop them below. I’m happy to share more details.
Thank you for celebrating this little miracle with us.
We can’t wait to meet our sweet boy.
—Katie
